Wednesday, February 16, 2011

More than a Moment

I feel like this post needs a little bit of background information.

In the days following our move to Texas, I lost my grandmother. A few short weeks later, Charles lost his grandfather. Because of the move, and my pregnancy, we weren't able to attend either funeral. It is a strange thing to lose someone you love, and not be able to go and celebrate their life. It almost doesn't seem real. We have talked a lot about them since they've passed, but there is something about being at the memorial service that brings closure. We missed that with both grandparents. Now, months later, I feel like we have it. I can only speak for myself though.

Ellie's middle name is from my grandmother, Ila Mae. When we blessed her, in January, and Charles said her full name, Ellie Mae Himmer... I felt that closure. I felt Grandma there, and I saw in a very real sense, the legacy she left behind. Encircled with worthy Priesthood holders, Ellie was given a special blessing. I couldn't help but realize what a vital role my grandmother had in that event. From the way she raised my dad, to the way he raised us. It was just a moment, just a blessing. For me, it was a much needed chance to reflect on the life of a wonderful woman that I was lucky enough to have in my life for so long.

I had another similar experience two nights ago.

For Valentine's day, Abigail got her Daddy a little airplane that he had been eyeing on our last trip to Hobby Lobby (he's a trooper). When he opened it up, he put it together and he and Abigail hit the back yard to test it out. I watched him with her. I watched him wind up the propeller, and show Abigail just how it would work. He took her hand and helped her throw it on its Maiden Voyage. For a second, I felt like I was watching two different people, many years ago. I could see Frank Seal, kneeling with his grandson, teaching him about planes, something that would remain an interest for the rest of Charles' life. I took a moment to reflect on so many attributes of Charles that he undeniably inherited, or learned, from his grandfather. I am so thankful for the influence he had on Charles. I know he played a valuable roll in making him the man he is today, the man that I love. Again, it was just a moment in our busy lives, but I again was reminded in a very real way of the impact of one life on another, and on generations to follow.

What legacy are you building?


sarah said...

that was so sweet, I cried as I read that. thank you for that and it is true, our family and friends do stay with us and we can keep them with us always by doing those simple things they did. thanks

Mike + Mo said...

Wow. Thank you for writing that. I can totally relate to what you wrote. Thank you for putting it so beautifully... I love that I know that they are watching us and I just hope I am making them smile...

Em said...

So many things to say about this. I know exactly what you mean about closure. That's how I felt about Tannon's was unsettling b/c I wasn't able to attend. I can't imagine not making it to your grandparents funeral..but I'm glad you got the closure. Charles is such a great daddy and husband. As for the pictures, that's one good lookin' group of great guys with that sweet baby girl, you look beautiful in your church outfit and Miss Nancy is gorgeous! I'm so glad you're back in Texas!!!

Baba's Place said...

Beautifully said Heather. Thank you for being such a wonderful mom to my grandchildren and for the love you have for my son.

alli said...

Oh Heather, this made me teary-eyed! I am so glad that I was able to go to the funeral still with Steven for Grandpa Seal but you have it right I think...even if I couldn't have, it's seeing all those things in Steven that I love that he got from Grandpa Seal. Such a sweet post.